VICTIM BLAMING

VICTIM BLAMING

Thoughts on Sex Crimes, Sexism, Drug Addiction, and Racism 

Re: Counter-Intuitive Ideologies permeating Western Culture

I'm often shocked and disheartened by the non-sensible anti-LOGIC which afflicts Western Society as a whole - the governing bodies, lawmakers & enforcers, and the misguided and ignorant voters who continuously support such utterly and statistically ineffective insanity.

This ignorance seems to have its roots in the delusions which are perpetuated by the repeatedly disproven notions drawn heavily from puritanical thought - a mindset which foolishly espouses Victim Blaming and Stigma in regards to both Sex-Crimes, AND Drug Addiction; born of Systemic Racism and Systemic Sexism.

Victim Blaming - replete with the enacting of laws which continue to perpetuate such silliness - operates most effectively upon the terrified.

It works by creating a psychological shield against the terror with which society can pretend to feel both safe from the uncertainty and chaos governing the universe, and also to attempt to distance themselves from the awful things which frequently occur in the world. It ignores the unsavoury fact of the Universe having few answers beside those granted through Religious tenets - they themselves based upon earlier religions, and Each religion offers NO proof other than itself as the reason for believing such fantastic tales; the Universe scares many humans as it truly operates with a system of natural chaos - no rhyme or reason.

Obviously people who are terrified enough of reality to block out the good sense and logic with which they’ve like been born , and instead, wholeheartedly embrace the nonsense they were indoctrinated with as very young children ‘til present (frequently the truth and choice of which are utterly dependent upon the luck of the geographical location in which they are born), are going to cling to Victim Blaming. Victim Blaming allows the most fearful and confused humans in a society to exercise their over-developed cognitive dissonance - thus, allowing them to truly believe that bad things can and do ONLY happen to bad people. Should something terrible happen to someone Good, however?  Well, actively praying ought to clear it right up, as it simply HAD to have been a glitch in the system. Of Course, that is, unless God simply willed otherwise, and THAT’S all right cos God knows what’s up. This way of thinking allows people to get LASIK surgery for  rose-tinted glasses - themselves needed to keep believing in the righteousness granted solely through lying to oneself . The Devoutness of believing that NOTHING horrible will occur so long as one follows the RULES, despite the mindset and the rules themselves being replicably proven as nothing short  of counterintuitive hogwash.

The most terrified citizens of any nation labour under the delusion that  the Devil and Danger lurk in wait, ready to pounce upon the very right time in which they can corrupt and destroy their children. Fear over one’s own children is obviously a very realistic fear as parents most often love their children more than life itself. However, the danger in operating with a default set to BE AFRAID AND CAUTIOUS is that the fear can be weaponised and twisted in order to further the aforementioned delusions for the ultimate benefit of the corporate interests and their puppets placed into government positions in order to keep the corporations as rich and tax-free and undetectably unlawful as they need to remain in order to continue to hoard their wealth, power, and dynasties.. This social stronghold which society keeps upon the children of the terrified essentially uses the fear for one’s child’s well-being as the ultimate and unbeatable weapon. The counter-logic of the Powers that Be encourages the BS of keeping a child veiled in utter ignorance, as that will somehow prevent them from ever knowing any truth. To keep a child from the very education which is a right and a given in normal circumstances could also very well well expose them to the “bad things”. For an innocent child to know of such things is to very well go ahead and instruct the child to engage in such acts. No credence is given to reality - that an education is necessary and provided in order to assist the future grown-ups with  making wise decisions when they’re inevitably faced with the “bad things” (aka. human nature).  No harm shall befall their children if the children are  never allowed to become properly aware is a mantra which needs to die. Instead, children (who grown up exactly as anyone  else does, nonetheless) will instead kept safe and secure, properly sorted into their assigned gender roles, properly made to conform to all social standards deemed acceptable, and hence they will be saved from reality and left very much like the terrified and ignorant adults who raised them. The children are thought to need protection from the shock of seeing female nipples and women feeding their babies as nature itself intended. Often occurring in a public setting as babies are humans, and other humans are allowed to do - to eat without shame.

The victim blamers don’t let it go at that either - they definitely plan for the allowed and the disallowed behaviours of each member in society and leave no room for reality and differences. Victim Blamers use a cookie-cutter scale for the Males in society, and these males are judged and expected to display their reliability at adhering to each and every ridiculous expectation; measured by their  ability to ascribe to the roles and behaviours viewed as acceptably masculine. They are expected to be cool-headed in the face of distress, inept at caring for their own offspring, sex-obsessed, never rape-able or quick to sob or even fallible physically, and  their ultimate duty is  to protect. If they actually require protection themselves is moot as there isn’t room in the Victim Blaming society for men who aren’t tough and violent. Men aren’t allowed to feel fear or uncertainty, feel warmth or affectionate towards their male relatives or friends.  nor are they permitted socially to feel and behave in a way which may indicate that they feel vulnerable. They aren’t allowed to feel okay with themselves if they simply don’t care much for sports, or if they enjoy romance, or if they wish for women to make the move on them. They aren’t allowed to feel happy if they’re single unless they’re engaging in copious amounts of casual sex. They are treated as parodies or “real men” should they happen to be overweight, homely, short in stature, gentle, or as any of the varieties in which men come in.

Victim Blamers use the same scale for Females, and actively encourage the other victim blaming females to pit themselves against the Females who don’t ascribe to their own views of the roles and behaviours of proper Females. Women  aren’t allowed to feel strong, angry, assertive, okay with themselves as single unless they’re on a man hunt, or as without a need to procreate, or as overweight without being viewed as a disgusting creature who exists only to make men feel sick; they aren’t permitted to be ok with being homely, or to possess any of the varieties in which women come in; neither should they dare feel safe, or demonstratively sexually interested. For a man to demonstrate excessive emotionality is to be akin to being like a female, and we all “know” what females are. To be called a bunch of pansies or ladies whilst engaging in sports is considered perfectly fine and even insultingly humourous. Women are viewed as Always ready to nurture, behave in a hysterical fashion, pursue silly and fluffy hobbies; they are also bitches, saints, mothers, and  dirty, in love with trickery, manipulation, and the eating of forbidden fruits. They are Virgin-Whores who are primarily defined by how attractive they are to men, and how “good” of a husband they can wrangle from the ol’ husband farm. Their worth is calculated by how big of a diamond society tells them they ought to want and require from their suitors (with no regard for the cost of a diamond and the impact that such a gift can and does have upon their suitor, nor the  Blood Diamond Industry, nor even for the rationale behind such a scam being created  by the diamond industry itself). Women Are For Sex, where SEX = Bad, Dirty, UnGodly; therefore Women =  Bad, Dirty, & UnGodly. The most illogical math problem of all, and one which is entirely embraced hook, line, and sinker by the sorts of people who behave in ways which cause one to simply realise that they ARE Victim Blamers, Fear-Mongers, the (ONE CONCEPT ONLY of)  Family Values Brigade, and the RW Extremist Evangelicals.

It’s a system which divides and creates such misunderstanding amongst men, women, and alternatively-gendered individuals that it’s definitely a social factor at play when one looks at the social factors involved in the creation of one who engages in Sex Crimes.

As much as Victim Blamers love to claim otherwise, Sex CRIMES have little to NOTHING to do with actual sex and the desire for sex getting out of hand due to someone being a tease, or dressing in a way which somehow indicates to one and all that the wearer of such clothes wishes for nothing more that to be assaulted.

SEX CRIMES are Crimes of Hatred, Power, and Control.

They are committed by those who feel/felt incredibly angry and invalidated somehow, sometime, during their life - plus the prospective perpetrator possessing poor impulse control, a decided lack of nervousness regarding socially and ethically confusing situations, the inability to feel consideration for the rights of others, and a highly selfish nature - a nearly or complete lack of empathy for either all of humanity, or at least a great deal  of those who do or  may perceptually embody the person/persons representing the person or persons who the Sex Criminal perceives as having somehow - whether actually or imaginarily - wronged, invalidated,denied their entitled attitude,  and/or harmed them at some time - either once or during  a long period of time. Thus the person who is viewed by the perpetrator as the catalyst for the crimes is granted the unenviable position of being the “root” and the “excuse” for engaging in such antisocial and violent behaviours.

Yet often the behaviour is tangled up in the aforementioned system which  was created in order to keep everyone afraid and ordered. A Sex Criminal - often displaying a glaring lack of insight - will view the catalyst as the ONLY root, rather than realising that the society which made him/her  feel entitled to violate someone else also assisted in the creation of their progression from infant to Sex Criminal - a human who, in addition to a disturbed and faulty combination of nature, nurture, and  physiology, was brought up in the same society which helped create a Rapist. A Human  who feels perfectly entitled to commit rape. A flawed society which gives the message that Victim Blaming is FINE - hence, Victimisation is ALSO  FINE. Violence is FINE when one is perceiving that they’ve been treated poorly that they’ve been left no “choice” but to act out. The needs of him/herself are prioritised over the needs of others in part because  of the views of Victim Blaming and its adherents insisting that their view is the only way and the Best Way.

Sex Crimes often include multiple stabbing and overkill towards another; the knife often linked - in the perpetrator's mind at least - as a sort of phallus with which to inflict harm and humiliation unto their victim (FYI - this mindset , whilst  primarily a masculine one, has been utilised, albeit far less, by women who have committed assaults and murders via multiple stabbings).

The ideologies embraced by those who view a phallus  as a body organ to be utilised unto a recipient who must  somehow endure its application - as the duty of a wife to submit to the needs of her spouse, and to furthermore embrace the mindset that the act is pleasurable primarily for men because a proper woman engages in sexuality as something dutiful, and can and is injured, humiliated, subjugated and permanently sullied  by its very application -is a bizarre and highly cognitively dissonant way to think, and rooted, again, in the Victim Blaming and Biblical ideations embraced by the fearful masses. These mental gymnastics are performed regularly despite  most participants (outside of Sex Crimes) being in agreement that Sex is quite enjoyable amongst  those who admit that it is,  and even amongst those who are terrified to admit to such things for fear of  being  stigmatised by society, hence causing them to  pretend to find it distasteful or even creating within themselves the psychology needed to actually find no pleasure in the act  due to the guilt of participating willingly in something which they were taught to believe that is socially and Religiously dutiful,  unless you’re a man or a whore. 

This mindset has it's roots in the tenets of the misogynistic domain of the very foundations  of the current Big 3 religions and the Abrahamic God - a masculine deity who definitely has a poor view of females -or at least the fellows who invented/plagiarised God certainly did. After all,  God created a tree of knowledge (for some dumb reason) and the ORIGINAL SIN that we’re all supposedly born with -   which Jesus NEEDED to die for - was all the Fault of the Magic Ribcage lady coercing her Adam into eating from the tree as well. Also indicative of God’s woman-hating nature, besides story after story of his being ok with rape and sex slaves, etc… is that  the MAIN THING which he required from the eligible and magical 14yo mother of  his saviour offspring was that she be both young and illogically chaste.

For a Victim Blaming, Religious, and Fearful woman to admit to enjoying and pursuing sex - as a Western Female, and as a Female in Most Societies, is seen as the equivalent to requesting that one be raped, shamed, scorned, shunned, and viewed as both wanton and somehow simply “bad”. The more logical and science-based view towards sexuality - as an act which not only procreates but creates bonding, closeness, stress-relief, and is just plain fun for many, and has been  evolutionarily advantageously enjoyed by ALL those parties who engage in such, regardless of gender and/or orientation - is still frowned upon, even in these modern times.

This line of thinking - sex as an unpleasant duty for a proper female - creates a society which believes that it’s far less fun for women to engage in sex, and with this in mind, it’s no wonder that a Sex Criminal would view forcing himself sexually upon a female as a perfectly fine thing to do to a female in order to punish her for being a female.

Obviously women are also capable of Sex Crimes, lest I appear to be biased, and I’ll elaborate:  Sex crimes are committed to callously and dementedly sort out the perpetrator's own perceived lack of control over some or all aspects of either their current and/or past life situations and events. Their aim isn't only to injure the perceived subject of their rage, but to humiliate as well. To punish EITHER the actual person they feel has caused them harm somehow, OR a line-up of proxy followed by proxy, the perpetrator finds  that this often suffices for a momentary release of their sick and pent-up rage and hatred towards either catalyst or proxy alike. ie. Aileen Wuornos' murdering of the men who sought to pay her for sex.  it seemed rather obvious that she intended to exact revenge for her own tragically sad upbringing, filled with molestation, rape, and neglect.

The misguided and scared Victim Blaming Society views the inequalities enacted by OTHER religions - those which AREN’T based upon Judeo-Christian ideals - as Barbaric. Yet  - in another example of cognitive dissonance, they defend to the death their right to harm newborn infants by mutilating their penises via circumcision, and they perpetuate stupid myths to justify the crazy amount of pain they inflict upon their perfect and innocent babies by crying “hygiene”, “locker-room conformity (?)”, “religious freedom”, and “health benefits” whilst science continuously and adamantly denies the veracity of each myth.

Everyone who exists terrified can continue to pretend that a steady diet of uber-violent media - rated as far less concerning to parents than anything remotely smacking of sexuality -  is perfectly harmless and desirably “normal” for a properly-reared  child, and this notion also completely embraces White Jesus and the whole package of the Manifest Destiny ascribed to the special ones who enjoy and preach about their rights and the Biblical Family Values racket. The send their kids off to pray away their gay rather than admit how harmful and suicide inducing such practices truly are, and invalidate every child who winces at being spanked, at each little kids who claims that Father Lou or Pastor Michael molested them, or that Sister Louisa beat them viciously cos they won’t accept that anyone who enjoys the “truth” of THEIR perfectly correct faith could possibly abuse a child. After all, they’re Godly! No one EVER seeks out a career which garners the least suspicion in order to utilise their authority to abuse others obviously. Cos no one inherently inhumane and selfish would ever think of that, yeah?

Victim blamers aren’t just happy with controlling the personal actions of those re: sexuality, but also wish to keep everyone free from past times which they see as unfit. Not drinking or caffeine or cigarettes, but the reluctance to make legal the  usage of drugs. And Using DRUGS  harms NO ONE -  excepting the approximately 10% of  genetically  predispositioned addicts - INCLUDING those who are ALSO addicted to Alcohol, Caffeine, Prescription Drugs, and Cigarettes However, implicit in the harm which DOES occur whilst looking at ADDICTION is the Ignorance and lack of compassion for those who are unfortunate enough to become addicted.   To learn and to know the reality of predisposition and health and social effects of choosing to use drugs despite a familial nature which may indicate a nature for one to become addicted; to learn how the usage of Drugs and the potential Addiction to Drugs  are both proven to be utterly enhanced by the social environment in which one is raised, through neuroplasticity and through myriad aspects of society, including but not limited to the mindset and addictive nature of one’s parents, the financial success of one’s own family, friends, and geographic locale... Such knowledge Counters the devastating effects of addiction.

Availability of a  high quality and REALISTIC education regarding all aspects of addiction and usage ie. the dangers, genetics, legalities, choices vs. nature, addiction and mental illness/a history of trauma and abuse (self-medicating behaviours), associated addictive substances which AREN’T illegal and why, and the nature of addictions in general -  the why and how, the differences in drugs, etc...

VERSUS

Keeping Drugs Illegal helps maintain a harmful stigma. There’s the very fear of legal repercussions which often supercedes one’s own need to attempt to admit to their addiction problems and thus seek and obtain help - obviously the latter is nowhere nearly as socially beneficial as the former.

The very silliness of making something illegal and believing  that it is now somehow un-doable has succeeded in wasting an obscene amount of tax dollars whilst enabling abuses and murders born of cartels and organised crime. There’s little if any finances earmarked towards the more useful goal of affordable support and rehabilitation, and in the world of the Victim Blamer, this is FINE. When one sees addiction as something which only happens to the gross  and wicked; as a willful choice one makes because they are inherently BAD? Well, this means it’s never going to receive the proper attention and treatment it deserves as an illness in dire need of attention, and which affects each person equally without regard to race or creed or income. Of course, the help for addiction IS Certainly affected by race and income, as those who enjoy white privilege will ALWAYS serve less time than People of Colour for the same drug crimes, and will find the funds and access to rehab far more readily available to them.

This brings me to the Worst Victim Blaming View of Addiction, and it permeates our culture so wholly as it’s almost unnoticeable in its sneakily constant and  parasitic nature. Our jails are FULL with People of Colour who are tried and sentenced Far  less leniently than White People are. Partially due to Systemic Racism as a whole, and partly due to drugs, drug culture, and addiction in general  being Closely, Wrongly, Inaccurately-yet-Intentionally associated with the very essence of the most Oppressed Citizens in Western Culture : People of Colour are the ULTIMATE scapegoat and the most Constant victims in the supposed and utterly idiotic War On Drugs. A war which feels like the war it actually is - a War on Black Culture.

However, true to form, it is a FACT which the terrified members of society somehow decide daily to choose to ignore, deny, and even  covertly support and engage in. Drugs are just another tool in the arsenal which is the very real existence of Systemic racism  and the resulting and frequent injustices still existing like a monstrous and putrid cesspit of the closest thing we have to evil (in a REAL World which supports no Magical force of Good v. Evil,  but only neurology, nurture, illness, and physiological external factors ie. Traumatic Brain Injury, Tumours, etc...). To acknowledge the reality of racism and neurological predisposition to addiction however AGAIN goes against the illogical fear necessary for one to engage in the perceptual “safety” found within a system, culture, and Ideology of those who Victim Blame. To admit that our society is NOT Fair and Equal and the effect that Victim Blaming has upon society’s MOST innocent victims - the victims of Sex Crimes and the victims of Racism and police targeting - is something which simply doesn’t fit in with the ideals of the Christian Right and the proponents of such.

One who exists in a world which denies logic and  reality must continue to believe that each and every unarmed Black Child being murdered by cop(s) must be doing something wrong cos (AGAIN):  “No one EVER seeks out a career which garners the least suspicion in order to utilise their authority to abuse others obviously. Cos no one inherently inhumane and selfish would ever think of that, yeah?”.  The most racist of ideologies amongst those who nonetheless deny being racist is the one which is ignited into an inferno of self-righteousness - that someone they view as a suitable Victim worthy of their Blame Game, and someone  they have been raised to believe is somehow LESS than themselves, is found to be actually Truthful, victimised without the need for blame, and worthy of respect and validation. That the people they fear and hate the most are now socially able to provide video evidence of the inflicted targeting and police-issued violence? This challenges the very  foundation of their righteousness and deep-seated fears upon which they built their houses of straw. If there’s no one left to hate and fear - if there’s truly no enemy outside an elite corporate-owned mainstream media - Billionaires who know  how easy it is to trick people into partisan fighting, religious conflicts, victim-blaming, sexism, racism, and hatred-based ignorance and stupidity, whilst they carry  on gutting the economy and destroying the ability for almost anyone to survive in such a world? To acknowledge this is to acknowledge that chaos and inequality IS REAL and COULD affect them no matter whose rules they follow. And THAT is the Scariest thing for someone who’s already based their whole life on fear.

Those are my thoughts for today. Peace. xoxoxoxo